PARENTING DILEMMA 1

Q. My son aged six is very self-centered. Even in his school, he does not mix up with other children and in the parent-teachers meeting, he sits alone in the back chair holding his head.

Children in this age are in a development stage where they want everything for themselves. Being self-centered is a normal behavior and children of this age are at this stage.There can be multiple reasons for your child's behavior. For example, something may be bothering him in the home environment, school environment, studies, friends etc. The best way to know the exact reason is to know from your child. This conversation is to be done in 'peace time' which is a time when the child is at peace and relaxed. For example play time, while having a walk in the park, practicing hobbies together etc. This way a rapport can be built first and then the parent can take the communication forward. 

First, communicate with your child about what might be bothering him and listen to him fully without any assumptions or preconceived notions in your mind. Also, share your own concern and feelings with him. The idea is to acknowledge whatever the child says during this conversation. He may cook up a story or tell you the facts but refrain from making any judgments. It may so happen that the child is not opening up in your first few attempts but keep trying and focus on listening and acknowledging his feelings only. This is a very critical step.
Enjoy parenting!